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learn to cook food you love. eat the food you love. it probably has high carbs; you'll probably build up a bit of belly padding. women love that.watch Scandinavian crime dramas. maybe not that specifically, but something you can actually get into that's not purely violence and portrays female characters with complexity. keep your place clean, or if you struggle with that immensely like I do, try to and be honest about what makes it so hard. not "ew I hate that" or "I'd rather someone else do it for me" but more like "I have a hard time motivating myself because I know it will never be perfect and it will just get messy again. maybe sharing the space will help motivate me." (and then if you do share the space, especially with a partner you've attracted due to being an honest dude who cooks and watches watchable television, actually try to get motivated and do what you can.)wear clean clothes that don't have holes in them unless it's part of the design. if it's nothing but hoodies, jeans, and t-shirts with flaming skulls on them—if they're kept clean and intact then some women will find it cute. don't use overpowering body sprays.don't tolerate your buddies being shits.don't defend fascists. and, most importantly, get to know women as people instead of just thinking of them in terms of the role you want filled in your life using standard rites of courtship and marriage as tools to get there. you do not need to break your face.